A recent study of lifestyles determined the eight healthy habits that can add the most years to a human life. It’s a list of what to do (four) and what not to do (another four) to live longer. All eight are fairly commonsense, but one in particular stood out to me: Surround yourself with positive social relationships. You’ll increase your chances of a longer life by five percent, and you won’t be able to claim COVID-y words like “lonely” and “isolated”.
Let’s not make this a sad blog post, okay? I could spend the rest of my paragraphs talking about loneliness and isolation, but why bother when so many musicians have already done so before me? “Lonely” songs go back decades. In 1960, one of the biggest solitary singles was Roy Orbison’s Only The Lonely. The same year, Elvis released Are You Lonesome Tonight? And anybody who remembers the Beatles’ Eleanor Rigby (1966) knows Eleanor’s story is all about loneliness.
The 1960s is a little too far back for my purposes. I’d rather focus on two more recent songs you know (from popular re-recordings) and another one you might know. One thing’s for sure; all three play in my brain now and again, but especially when I’m “Alone” or “All by Myself”.
Alone
The power ballad made famous by Heart (and then Celine Dion) is not so much about being alone but about wanting to be with a particular someone else… but not being able to. “Alone’s” lyrics voice the frustration of a romantic longing. It’s more about how do I get you alone than actually being alone. There’s even this suggestion of before versus after: Till now I always got by on my own. But the song’s final lines – nothing but repeating, wailing, unsatisfied “alones” – gets me every time. Heart’s version of “Alone” spent three weeks at #1 on the U.S. Billboard Hot 100 and still makes an occasional appearance on the radio.
All by Myself
Even though this was another Celine Dion’s hit (what’s with all the loneliness, Celine?), no one who lived through the 1970s would ever take “All by Myself” away from Eric Carmen. The song hit #2 on Billboard’s Top 100 and sold more than a million copies (back when listeners actually purchased music). “All by Myself” is also categorized as a power ballad; “a style of music that often deals with romantic or intimate relationships… usually in a solemn but poignant manner”. The second verse is a good example:
Livin’ alone
I think of all the friends I’ve known
But when I dial the telephone
Nobody’s home
Like “Alone”, there’s no happy ending to “All by Myself”. In fact, the lyrics are disconsolate from start to finish (yet somehow they work). Also, trivia buffs, you’ll hear the song’s melody in the second movement of Sergei Rachmaninoff’s classical Piano Concerto No. 2 in C minor, which is odd but intentional.
Alone Again (Naturally)
I find it fascinating when a song sounds happy but really isn’t. Maybe that’s why Gilbert O’Sullivan’s “Alone Again (Naturally)” has stayed with me all these years. It’s easily the “loneliest” song of the three I cover today, and seems to take pride in being so from start to finish. “Alone Again” manages to pack suicide, being left at the altar, wondering if there’s a God, and losing one’s parents into a single set of lyrics, layered on top of a merry duet of piano and guitar. The song spent six weeks at #1 on the U.S. Billboard Top 100 and was re-recorded by several others, including two American Neils (Diamond and Sedaka). But it’s Irishman O’Sullivan’s rendition I’ll always hear in my head.
Regarding those healthy habits I mentioned earlier, I think my report card’s looking pretty good. So good in fact, I can enjoy these chart-topping “lonely” songs without getting down. I hope you can do the same.
Some content sourced from the CNN article, “These 8 habits could add up to 24 years to your life, study says”, and Wikipedia, “the free encyclopedia”.
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